Drunkenness and alcoholism is a disease that destroys not only the personality from the inside, but also the family; helping her husband to stop drinking in time is the task of a woman, as the guardian of the hearth.
The reasons why the husband drinks
The reasons prompting a man to drink alcohol are psychological in nature. The psyche of the stronger sex is not able to cope with life's problems, pace, stress.
Alcohol serves as an outlet, an opportunity to disconnect from the outside world for a while. By causing oxygen starvation of certain parts of the brain, the action of ethanol blocks consciousness, creating an imaginary feeling of euphoria. Reasons for male cravings for a bottle of alcohol:
- Family alcoholism. Constantly drinking parents in the child's mind create a model of family behavior. The grown-up child becomes an unwitting hostage of the childhood program. By creating their own social unit, alcohol-based relationships are repeated.
- Society or "for the company". The tradition of drinking on Friday after work, joint collective trips with alcoholic beverages, the desire to curry favor with the authorities makes the man succumb to the general trend. Alcohol is imperceptibly becoming a part of the life of a former teetotaler.
- Dissatisfaction with family life, low self-esteem, exaggerated demands of the wife, tense work environment, weakness of character - induce a man to withdraw from responsibility for a while with the help of intoxicating drinks. Hard drinking for an indefinite period postpones the moment of making a decision, dulls the feeling of reality, the emerging feelings of joy, peace, relaxation stimulate pouring into the glass more often.
Methods of dealing with husband's alcoholism
Treatment for alcoholism is a time consuming process. The difficulty lies in the conscious approach to the need for assistance from the husband and wife.
A man must clearly understand the meaning of the procedures being carried out, have an unshakable incentive to live without alcohol. Eliminating addiction will return you to the problems you wanted to get away from. The reason for the treatment will not allow you to quit the process.
The therapy is a complex of medications and psychological support. Means of folk character can help a drinking husband at the initial stage of alcoholism, as additional elements of treatment.
Psychological help
Correcting the emotional background is of paramount importance when eliminating cravings for alcohol. The tasks of the psychologist are:
- Find out and compensate for the cause of alcohol cravings.
- Motivate a man to exist without stimulating the emotional background.
- Help a person understand the meaning of life, its brilliance.
- Tell the reasons, indicate people for whom it is worth quitting drinking.
- Explain how to solve problems in different life situations.
- Form goals for short-term periods that need to be realized.
In the process of raising a man's self-esteem and confidence in his strength, psychologists insist on supporting the family. Spouse, children, relatives are advised:
- Remind about the positive aspects of the beloved man, the happy moments of life together.
- Create an atmosphere of psychological comfort in the house, do not put pressure on your husband, do not blame for failures.
- Engage in a joint hobby that will bring family members closer and deny thoughts about alcohol. Read, attend cultural events.
- Family work, building a house, a summer residence contributes to the development of a sense of responsibility for the result and others.
Drug treatment
You can help your husband stop drinking with medication. Treatment with medicines is carried out under the guidance of a doctor on an outpatient basis and at home. Complex therapy includes several stages:
- Reducing the toxic effect on the body, cleansing the decomposition products of alcohol. Intravenous droppers are used.
- Withdrawal syndrome causes the patient to experience headaches, nausea, insomnia, aggression. To reduce these symptoms, special drugs are prescribed orally or intravenously, as well as B vitamins.
- Anti-relapse treatment. The purpose of the drugs used is to induce aversion to ethanol drinks, relieve cravings, and eliminate pleasure after drinking. Alcohol intake during therapy causes shortness of breath in a man, increased heart rate, pain in the stomach, nausea, and fear of death.
Drug prescription is carried out by a narcologist. The drugs have a number of contraindications, they are selected individually, taking into account the patient's history.
ethnoscience
Traditional medicine is based on the use of herbs, infusions, decoctions. Treatment takes two steps.
When preparing any product, you must strictly follow the recipe. Consult a doctor before use. Herbs cause allergic reactions in humans.
The first stage of treatment is detoxification of the body after ethanol. Use:
- Green tea - cleanses the liver and kidneys from harmful elements. The recommended dose is 4 glasses a day.
- Water regime - the use of a sufficient amount of water, determined by weight: 30 ml per 1 kg of mass.
- Fermented milk products - saturate the intestines with lactobacilli, stimulate the restoration of the epithelium of the stomach.
- Rice broth or oat kvass - adsorb toxic substances, removing them with feces, envelop the walls of the gastrointestinal tract with a film, contribute to a decrease in permeability.
- Honey drinks with lemon in the morning on an empty stomach stimulate metabolic processes.
- Bathhouse, sauna.
The second stage is treatment with herbal decoctions and infusions. The goal is to eliminate cravings, cause disgust, make a man not drink alcohol. Popular recipes:
- 3 tablespoons of thyme are poured with a liter of boiling water. After complete cooling, take 1 tablespoon before meals in the morning and evening. To enhance the effect, mix several spoons into the alcoholic drink.
- 10 g of chopped licorice root is insisted for 2 hours in a glass of boiling water. Drink with green tea 3 times a day.
- 2 tablespoons of thyme tomato in a water bath in 200 ml of boiling water for 10-15 minutes. Drink the solution cold, 1/3 cup after each meal.
- 10 g of balovid lymphoid are poured into 200 ml of boiling water. Allow to settle for 10-15 minutes. Used in a mixture with alcoholic beverages.
Other herbs are also effective: bay leaf, lovage, horsetail, centaury, cyanosis root. Diet and proper nutrition support the body during treatment.
How to convince a person to undergo alcoholism treatment?
Treatment for alcoholism is a voluntary and deliberate process. It is wiser to visit a narcologist and get clear recommendations that should be followed. To force a husband to quit drinking is possible only through motivation.
Stimulating and encouraging the spouse to give up alcohol should be in several ways:
- Health. The toxic effect of ethanol on the body causes irreversible pathologies of internal organs. Developing diseases, their recognition, fear of losing the ability to work forever or life are motivational reasons. Stimulation against the background of health is successful at all stages of alcohol addiction.
- Motivation against the background of family well-being will stop only at the initial stages of alcoholism. At this stage, the man still succumbs to persuasion, it is worth recalling the position in the house, the dominant role as a source of well-being, family prosperity, security.
- Loss of a job, problems in career growth are convincing for a man who has achieved great results in the professional field. Errors in the workplace while intoxicated, leading to irreversible consequences, will lead to dismissal or the application of various types of punishment
- Decrease in material income or its loss as an inability to acquire a cherished thing, to go on vacation.
To persuade a husband to quit drinking, to undergo treatment, it is not enough to choose a direction of motivation. Several rules will help you get a positive result faster:
- Family's firm conviction of success.
- Conversations are carried out in a calm voice without raising the tone, so as not to frighten or arouse anger. Family photos, videos, achievements of a man in sports, at work will have a positive effect.
- Refusal of phrases that can offend, humiliate, offend a spouse. He must be imbued with trust.
- Emphasize the importance of a husband, beloved boyfriend, distinctive qualities, show concern.
- Periodic reminders of the problem of alcoholism in a relaxed atmosphere should be the rule until you reach agreement.
- Examples from life or friends will act as a reliable fact of healing, the onset of a happy life after.
- Make plans together, remind the forgotten ones.
The main mistakes of loved ones of an alcoholic
A drinking husband in a family is comparable to a natural disaster. Often a woman does not understand how to behave correctly in this situation, makes mistakes that aggravate the situation.
Stop ignoring your husband's addiction
Women are afraid to abandon a drinking man, to lose at least such, but support for the family, turn a blind eye to alcohol addiction. Realize the severity of the consequences too late. The process of drunkenness becomes protracted, there is assault on his wife and children.
The systematic use of alcoholic beverages in small doses or low alcohol drinks such as beer is a cause for concern. Relaxing after a hard day at work is not a reason to have a drink. Be more attentive to the second half.
Stop forgiving
Forgiving her husband after every drunkenness, courtship during a hangover, the spouse reinforces confidence in the correct behavior. Show your husband your displeasure. I came drunk, do not let me near the marriage bed. Fell on the threshold, let him sleep there. Don't indulge when you're hungover.
Show by actions that you do not accept your spouse in this state. The resulting feeling of shame will play a positive role.
Give up alcohol yourself
Women run away from the hardships of family life in a club, relax, have a couple of glasses of wine with their girlfriends. They return home in a strong alcoholic intoxication. This is a reason for the husband to get drunk in return.
It will not work to dissuade the spouse from drinking if the woman allows herself the same weaknesses. Only a complete rejection of all intoxicants can help the alcoholic husband to quit alcohol.
Create favorable conditions for sobriety
The husband, starting to drink strong drinks, wants to get away from the current problems, go into the invented world.
If a wife starts praying for her husband's sobriety, sending him her love energy, preparing food in which to put her soul into, bright thoughts that the husband is good, that he is strong, sooner or later a moment comes when the husband himself refuses alcohol.
A woman needs to ease tensions at home in order to stimulate the desire to live and convince a man not to drink alcohol:
- Show your husband his importance in the home.
- Stop pushing the other half by pointing out responsibilities or mistakes.
- Offer to solve problems together.
- Take care of your appearance, visit beauty salons, a gym. The husband should see his wife as an attractive, well-groomed woman.
- Confidence and well-articulated thoughts will make a guy stop drinking. The calm tone is relaxing. An affable look, a smile on the face has a positive attitude and inspires confidence.
Deliver information calmly and constructively
Every dialogue with a spouse should take place in a peaceful environment. Aggressive conversation tactics or victim role are not the best options. Conversation in a raised voice causes resentment, anger, unwillingness to continue the dialogue.
Confidence and well-articulated thoughts will make a guy stop drinking. The calm tone is relaxing. An affable look, a smile on the face has a positive attitude and inspires confidence. The main aspects of the conversation, written in advance on paper, will help especially emotional ladies gather strength and not give up in front of the onslaught of their spouse.
What to do with advanced alcoholism in my husband?
Only a doctor can help a drinking person to quit alcohol with advanced forms of addiction. Prolonged intoxication of the body with ethanol products leads to severe pathologies of the systems of human vital activity. Medical treatment minimizes the consequences, supportive therapy will improve the performance of internal organs.
The joint work of a narcologist, psychologist, family and relatives will bring a positive result. A man will need competent treatment and supervision during the rehabilitation stage, building the right life priorities and re-setting the goals of being.
Craving for alcoholic beverages is a pernicious habit that develops into a disease with serious consequences for a person and loved ones. Asking your husband not to drink will not work. Addicts lose their sense of reality and do not want to admit addiction. Do not delay, contact a narcologist for help and advice. If necessary, your doctor will advise on treatment or traditional medicine.